Why Do We Need Our Addictions?
If money is considered to be the root of all evil, then what would we classify as our addictions?
The psychology of the human mind is ultra complex when compared to any other species on earth, so why does it love to tangle itself up in a destructive mode? Once more, why would it seemingly feel right to be in this place in life?
Let's drill down and put addictions in a separate folder. Psychological addictions are much more prevalent then physical ones; however, people can have both. When someone is psychologically addicted, they are obsessed with doing, having, and the idea of a specific concept swirls within.
If one is physically addicted, the actual body craves, but the mind can easily be trained that it also must "have it" in order to function properly.
Two main reasons behind the psychology of addictions are fairly simplistic human emotions that we all have. Self worth and security are the primary root reasons for our propensity to become addicted.
Example: An invitation lands inside your mailbox and many people that you know and don't know are going to be there. Feeling unsecure about your abilities, you summon up the courage to consume three or four drinks to take off the edge and loosen yourself before the event takes place.
This concept seems to work and now you don't just do it for regular functions, you begin to use it as a crutch more frequently. Your workplace may be the next testing ground or worst, at home.
Another example is when women seek out the same type of man as a patterned behavior because they feel within themselves that they simply do not deserve better. This self worth can manifest itself into many variations of an addictive personality or patterned behavior.
What would happen if we completely abolished all of our addictions, whether big or small, serious or not? Would we be forfeiting a part of our very fiber, the weave that keeps us together?
Not only can the mind play tricks on itself and make it believe that it needs something, but it can also become lucid and understand that it can stand alone without the assistance of external stimuli to artificially boost its worth or security.
Obviously, the latter is where we would all love to be, however, no one can break obsessive patterns unless they are understood, acknowledged, and then taken apart methodically.
This must come from within the person!
Analyzing your own behaviors from dusk to dawn and understanding that every action and decision has an end result of good or bad consequences, can prompt the 'ball to suddenly move forward.'
If denial skews logic even after acknowledging that negatives come out of specific actions, then additional introspection should be indicated or an external intervention employed.
If you let your security and self worth derive from your past, then your past will always haunt you. However, if the past is treated like it should be, as a way of understanding ourselves better through lessons learned, then your future can be today and beyond without the crutches.
Many of us carry around demons from the past and hold them as close to our hearts as anything else. They, in some way, fulfill what we think we are worth.
The truth is, everyone is literally invaluable, there is no price that could ever be placed upon you. Living pure, clean, and free of addictions is extremely attainable, although, analyzing and understanding yourself first....is the only way it can be done.
Strive to accomplish that daily, and you are on your way to a much more loving, happier, and content future then you could ever imagine.
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