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Eight Steps to Taking Control of Every Situation in Your Life!
Like it or not, we are all gladiators. We go to sleep and wake up in a social arena from which there is no escape. Challenge upon challenge confronts us, walls restrain us, and a mob of spectators mocks, sneers, or cheers us. Each and every day brings new battles whether we want them or not and whether we're up to them or not. Life forces us to face one skirmish after another - no choice in the matter. What we can choose, though, is which kind of gladiator to be, victor or victim. Being a victim in this social arena translates into having bad relationships. Most people are victims - victims of their own perceptions. That's because people don't develop and listen to their own unique, authentic self. Rather they allow their mental spectators - those little tyrants rattling around in their heads - to tell them second by second how to fight their battles, what they can and cannot do. These tyrants applaud and they hiss, they encourage and they discourage. These mental spectators are the memories of the judgments of real-life people. For example, it's the memory of your aunt saying, "I hope you marry someone rich, because you're not going far on brains." It's the echo of your father growling, "You've got a back problem - no spine." And their influence over your relationships can't be overestimated. Millions of people accept the judgments of their mental spectators as the truth and, therefore, the mediocre results that come from believing those judgments. With so many people living this way, the question becomes, is this the way I have to live? Fortunately, the answer is not unless you want to. Once you identify your mental spectators - and your interactions with them - you can move beyond victim and assume the role of victor. What it takes are eight steps for getting command, eight steps you can apply to most any situation you want altered. You can positively influence your relationships, your employment options, any aspect of your life. Let's look at the steps. 1. Define What Ails You.
2. Discover the Effects.
3. Seek the Source.
4. Identify Your Role.
5. State Your Desires.
6. Seek Options.
7. Learn Winning Techniques.
8. Master Your Relationships.
Although this is only a brief overview of each of the eight steps for jump-starting your relationships and taking control of your life, you'd be amazed at how significant the effects of a few minor adjustments in perception can be. About The Author Dr. Hartley is a social psychologist, a scientist, and the author of Tyrants of Self-Concept: Ruling the Rulers, a 122-page ebook that thoroughly describes the eight steps for improving your relationships, taking control of your life, and living the life you want to live. It includes easy-to-relate-to stories, examples, humor, and concrete, practical worksheets and exercises that get results fast. To learn more about how you can apply the steps, go to: www.rulingtherulers.com. doctorterry@rulingtherulers.com
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