17 More Things Ive Noticed Along the Way So Far
Three areas of life in which we get very little training, yet we all seem to have a strong opinion on: marriage, parenting and money.
When all is said and done, it really is much simpler to succeed than to fail.
Two A's for improving your marriage: awareness and anticipation. Awareness of how you are feeling -- anticipation of how your spouse might be feeling.
Today's choices are tomorrow's character.
In other countries people die for the right to vote. Our country may die someday because so many don't care to vote.
There are many books written on how to deal with difficult people. But do we ever pause to consider the shocking possibility that we might be someone's "difficult person"?
Let me see if I have this right: The father of one hockey player beats to death the father of another hockey player because a kid's game was getting too violent? The scary thing is that kind of thinking is not as rare as we might like to believe.
Thousands of years from now, when they dig up our civilization, they will wonder about this culture that seemed to worship boxes. Sound strange? I'm talking about the big box that you find the family-room furniture arranged around, and the little boxes found in several other rooms: the TV set. Watching other people living is not living.
Many people misread a very important part of the Declaration of Independence. We don't have the right to happiness, we have the right to the pursuit of happiness. Kind of goes against the notion that we are entitled by just showing up.
The best way to make a problem worse is to attempt to solve it with the same kind of thinking that created the problem.
You can accomplish much more than you can't.
If you don't want your children to say it, do it or think it, you had better not say it, do it or think it.
Two of the most useless words are "if only." Two cures for the "if onlys" are to do the necessary things today that eliminate the possibility of "if only" tomorrow. It's also important to remember that what might have been is not necessarily what would have been.
Best way to communicate poorly -- focus on making yourself understood first. Best way to communicate well -- focus on understanding the other person first.
Life has its moments of unexpected blessings out of unexpected problems. Our curious little son bent down to pick up a small cactus in the parking-lot median. As I placed him in the car seat, with him wailing and me wondering how to get the thorns out, and how to explain it to my wife, up walks his pediatrician, who expertly removes the thorns.
Our children can be wonderfully humbling mirrors. After a prolonged temper tantrum resulted in our son missing out on a fun event, I actually heard this coming out of my mouth: "When you decide to stay angry you can miss out on a lot of good stuff."
Best quote I've heard lately, from Pastor Rick Warren: "If you are burning the candle at both ends, you may not be as bright as you think you are."
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A Woman?s Road To True Beauty
We live in a world where society dictates the norm. In today's society, beauty becomes so stringent that many women develop distorted views of body images and become frustrated at not being able to obtain the "ideal figure." Some women are so dissatisfied with their body size that they are driven to become thin and maintain that thinness, sometimes to the detriment of their health. Some women diet in order to increase their self-confidence, make a partner happy or to fit into the perceived model look hype that is so often seen on television. In some respect dieting trends reflect the cultural norms that say that women who eat less are considered to be more feminine and more beautiful. Women spend thousands on surgery to change their features or gain the nose, eyes, and mouth of their favorite celebrity.
Choosing Your Vision
There is a new television show, called Blind Justice that will be replacing NYPD Blue. The show follows a Detective who, at the prime of his life and career, loses his vision in a heroic attempt to thwart a bank robbery and save other police lives. The shooting of this Detective results in his losing his eyesight/vision. He refuses the "disabled" label and sues to get his job back. What immediately struck me as I watched the promo for this new TV show was the idea of losing one's vision. Not physically becoming blind, but losing the vision we once had for our lives.
4 Barriers to Overcome For Growth
As we begin a new year, it's natural to reflect a bit on what we really want out of the next 12 months. Have you made some resolutions? Have you decided to get in shape? Go for a promotion? Quit smoking? Get your finances in order? Spend more time with your family? All of the above? Whatever your resolutions are, they all boil down to one thing- you want GROWTH! Congratulations! You've taken the first step towards seeing positive results. The material you'll find in the newsletter this year will help your growth journey be swifter and more fun.
Prime That Pump! Part 2
In Part 1 of this article, we talked about reaching our goals as largely a matter of following through on desire, vision and action. The difficulty for most of us lies in continuing to believe that our efforts will ever bear fruit when these fruits have not yet begun to materialize.
Is Fear Killing Your Dreams?
"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face...You must do the thing you think you cannot do." - Eleanor Roosevelt (1884-1962).
Make The Most Of Today
"Look at a day when you are supremely satisfied at the end. It's not a day when you lounge around doing nothing; it's when you've had everything to do and you've done it!" - Margaret Thatcher (Former British Prime Minister)
Questions for the Game of Life
"If you could eliminate one day from your past so that you never had to live through it, what day would you erase?"
Break And Move Beyond The Length Of The Chains
"Never let fear, procrastination or the longing for approval from others to take possession of your mind, they become self-forged chains." ~ Ty Howard
The Dawn On The Nile Valley Has Secrets To Tell! (3)
Me and Mao Tse-Tung!
Take a Turn at Tenacious!
"Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan 'press on' has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race." Calvin Coolidge
Self-care Isnt Being Selfish
When was the last time you truly relaxed? Do you often find that another exhausting week ends and you glance at a book you bought six months ago and realise you simply haven't had the time to read it? If this sounds horribly familiar then it's likely that you are prioritising the demands in your business life and ultimately your personal life is missing out.
8 Super Ways To Avoid Procrastination
We are all guilty of delaying what needs to be done at sometime or another; so learning ways of how to avoid procrastination is beneficial to everyone.
Are You a Right-Fighter?
Are You a "Right-Fighter"?
About Creating a New Life
1. Where do I start to create a new life?
5 Keys to Maintaining Personal Change
I look out my window at daybreak as the sunrise creates tiny sparkles on sheets of frozen snow. Two mornings later, the snow and sparkles are gone. Even the warmer weather will not last long.
Ever Feel Like Your Elevator Is Stuck Between Floors?
What do you do when you make a big mistake? When you fail? When you suffer defeat? When everything just goes wrong? When serious misunderstandings develop with others? When it appears like there is no way out? When solutions to your problems just seem impossible?
Teaching kids -- UGH!! (...and what I learned from it)
I have a confession to make: I don't like working with little kids.
Letting Go Of Our Negativity
Everyone has something, whether it be a habit, or aspect of their personality, that they wish that they didn't have. For me, that something is fear. I am constantly afraid of just about anything you could name...car crashes, meeting new people, tornados, driving in the dark, sleeping with the closet open, public speaking...you name it, I'm probably afraid of it! This is a negative habit, and certainly one I would like to change. Most people can name at least one similar habit or personality trait off the top of their head. Think about it for a moment. What part of yourself would you truly like to be rid of? Now take that part of you, and imagine it disappearing forever. If you want, you can even make it more physical and real by writing that trait down on a piece of paper, then burying it or destroying it.
Discover How to Stay Motivated and Be Successful
If you surveyed 50 people asking each their definition of success, chances are you would receive fifty different answers. Even so, there are certain steps everyone must follow in order to be successful. One of the most important is - staying motivated.
Finding Your Authentic Path
"Deep in their roots, all flowers keep the light." ~ Theodore Roethke
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